Dr Eric Daiter has served Monmouth and Middlesex Counties of New Jersey as an infertility expert for the past 20 years. Dr. Daiter is happy to offer second opinions (at the office or over the telephone) or new patient appointments. It is easy, just call us at 908 226 0250 to set up an appointment (leave a message with your name and number if we are unable to get to the phone and someone will call you back).
Availability
"I always try to be available for my patients since I do understand the pain and frustration associated with fertility problems or endometriosis."
Cost
"I understand that the economy is very tough and insurance companies do not cover a lot of the services that might help you. I always try to minimize your out of pocket cost while encouraging the most successful and effective treatments available."
Recurrent Pregnancy Loss: grieving process
As soon as a pregnancy becomes recognized, each (prospective)
parent generally starts to accept and plan for their new arrival.
If the pregnancy is lost, this is often considered a "death
within the family" and the couple will go through an intense
grieving process. The loss of a pregnancy can be devastating for
a couple, regardless of the number of children in the family or
the cause for the loss.
Components of the grieving process may be easier to accept and
cope with if they are consciously understood. Therefore, I have
outlined major issues. Interested couples can either read the
original sources or consult a professional psychologist specializing
in this area.
The grieving process often includes sequential periods of
denial, beginning with the shock of learning that there
has been a death
anger, often inappropriately directed at anyone the
person thinks about or sees
bargaining, often involving charitable acts or attempts
to reconcile damaged relationships
depression, often associated with feelings of helplessness
and hopelessness
acceptance, enjoying the time spent with family and
social groups "more than ever."
There may also be changes in one's self image. The changes that
have been described in the context of the loss of a body part
may be relevant, including
impact, beginning at the point of awareness that there
is a problem requiring the loss of a body part (or here essentially
a "family part")
retreat, where denial of the importance of the loss
may occur (a second opinion at this point is often important in
allowing movement toward closure)
acknowledgment, with acceptance of the need for treatment
generating an attempt to place the treatment and loss into an
appropriate context
reconstruction, a redefinition of self image without
the presence of the lost part (or family member)
In this grieving process, if the "redefined self images"
of each member of the family can not be accepted by the other
members then there is often a long lasting impact possibly resulting
in depression. If a couple can "not get over the loss"
then professional counseling is often quite powerful and should
be recommended.
